Anonymous asked: #KatiFAQ Can someone be emotionally abusive without realizing it? I feel like my mom emotionally abused me even though she had good intentions.
Definitely! As I mentioned in my video.. most people who are emotionally abusive don’t even realize it.. and are acting out what they dealt with as children. Part of the abuse cycle… I am sorry this is happening to you honey. I hope my video on this topic was helpful! xoxo
Anonymous asked: #KatiFAQ Is it possible to have more than one eating disorder at the same time?
Technically it would then be called EDNOS.. or Other specified eating or feeding disorder (DSM 5 changed it to that). So you can definitely have varying ED behaviors. Most people do, to be honest. I hope that helps!! xxoo
Anonymous asked: #KatiFAQ Why is it so much harder to make friends when you're older? I'm 20 and in my 2nd year of college and haven't really made any friends that I regularly hang out with since I've been here. I know I'm a generally shy person and it takes me a long time to trust people, but it was so much easier to make friends in elementary and middle school. I seek close relationships, but at the same time something is holding me back from getting to know people. :/
Hey honey! Great question :) I will talk about this in my video today :) xoxo
Anonymous asked: #journaltopic art project journal idea: make a pretty collage or poster and then stick notes on it (post it's or stick card squares on) and write a gain that recovery has given you. Soon you will have a whole picture of successes on your wall!! Eg: recovery has given me better relationships
Thank you so much for this!!! What a great idea! I will use this in my video today :) xoxo
Anonymous asked: #KatiFAQ Hello Kati, my question is, how do I cope with my ED at thanksgiving (in Canada it's this weekend) my parents are making a huge traditional thanksgiving meal and I don't how to cope, I'll probably just end up restricting a lot after that meal, what can I do instead of restricting? How do I cope?
Thank you so much for your question honey!! I will talk about this today :) xoxo
Ethics and Therapy! Is your therapist treating you right?
Since I have heard from so many of you that you have had bad experiences in therapy I wanted to talk about what’s appropriate and what you can expect in your own therapy. The first being:
1. Boundaries: you should be able to learn some things in therapy and try them on your own. Your therapist shouldn’t be in touch with you every day or tell you it’s okay to hang out outside of therapy. We need to keep our therapeutic relationship safe and actually therapeutic. So notice if your therapist isn’t setting up safe boundaries for you. This could lead to you being hurt or not actually learning how to help yourself in the moment.
2. Setting expectations: Letting my clients know that therapy is a process, and it is their unique process. I cannot promise things will work out or get better in a short time frame. I can only promise that we will work together and do everything in our power to get through it. But because everyone situation is different, and we can only change what we do, I cannot promise things will turn out the way you had planned.
3. Being clear about the process. Letting my clients know how therapy works and that there are limitations to confidentiality is important. I don’t want it to be a surprise to them that I have to call CPS to report child abuse if that is something I feel is happening in their home. In order for our relationship to work, I need to be honest about these things.
I hope this helps you better prepare for therapy and know whether or not you have found one that is ethically sound. You have rights too! And you deserve to have a therapist that takes your treatment seriously :)
1. #katifaq hi Kati- hope all is well here’s my question : would it be appropriate for me to ask my therapist to come and see one of my dance performances? I’ve been seeing her since March and will be continuing to see her for my depression, eating disorder, ect. My show isn’t until January but would it be ok to ask her to come? Would that be overstepping boundaries? Thanks!
2. #katiFAQ Hey Kati, I’m being bullied a lot at work, and I’m not sure how to deal with it, I’ve tried to stand up for myself several times but it always backfires, making me feel even smaller. I was bullied as a child in school and I was emotionally abused by my sister, so I tend to just take it and not say anything, but lately I’ve been coming home from work and just crying my eyes out. What can I do?? Help! Keep up the awesome videos!
3. Can we have PTSD even if we cant remember all the details of our abuse?
Journal Topic: Thanks Lydia
"dont worry about those who talk behind your back, there are behind you for a reason" ~unknown
What are you worrying about this weekend that you shouldn’t??MY FREE WORKBOOKS:
1. #KatiFAQ how can you cope in a close relationship with someone who has depression? I feel as if I’m trying all the time to make an effort, be there for her & prove I care, & yet the only things she picks up on are the times I don’t reply immediately or forget to do something & that, to her, proves I don’t care. I know it’s her illness but I find it really hard to put in so much love & it not matter. I’m ashamed to say I’m starting to resent it. What can I do?
2. Could i be faking a depression?I’m 21 year old girl,and I have checked out symptoms on depression and I match with being irritable, getting tired, headaches, tight throat, nail biting, overwhelming feelings, numbness, overthinking isolation, not wanting to communicate with anyone, losing interest in stuff etc. but I dont know if this is just normal or if im making this all up in my head. This actually started for about a year , and it intensified for the past months.
3. #KatiFAQ Whenever I see or hear that “recovery is a choice that only you can make” or anything along those lines I feel so guilty that I am not recovered yet, and that it is my fault yet again because I am not recovered yet. In your opinion, what does “recovery is a choice” actually mean? Does it mean that if I wanted to recover I would be and every mistake or relapse or spiral is me not trying hard enough or not wanting it enough or not making the choice?
Life is like riding a bicycle, in order to keep your balance you have to keep moving.
1. KatiFAQ Hi Kati, can a therapist keep changing your diagnosis? At first when I (re) started therapy a few weeks ago I was diagnosed with dystimic disorder. Later she changed it to chronic depression and now she changed it again, to PTSD. Can a therapist keep changing your diagnosis, and why/ why not?
2. #katiFAQ Hey Kati,is it possible to stay on medication for life? I’ve been diagnosed with OCD,social anxiety and depression and immediately put on meds(Zoloft).I feel completely reborn,all my anxiety and depression gone but I’m afraid they will reduce the medication intake.
3. Hey Kati, recently I was told by my therapist that I’m “not my depression and anxiety” and to work on identifying my identity without either of those diagnoses. How am I meant to separate my depression and anxiety from my personality, especially when I’m a naturally pessimistic person? I’m not even sure I am much of anything without them, because I’ve shaped my life and personality to include and give power to them. How do I find my identity without depression if I’m still suffering from it and where is the line drawn between my real voice and my depression voice? Sorry,that’s a lot of questions.
You’re a superstar kati, thank you for all your videos, they really help!
Journal Topic? “If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?”
Anonymous asked: #KatiFAQ Hey Kati! What are your thoughts about staying in school with depression? I have been having a hard time recently at my university and often wonder if I should just deal with this all while at my university with the help of the counseling center, or if i should go back home, take some classes at community college, and focus on dealing with this while at home. Thanks, Kati!
Thank you so so much for your question! I will talk about this today :) xxo
Anonymous asked: #katiFAQ Hi Kati, do you think things like self harm and eating disorders are preventable? I've been self harming for 4 years and I feel like if I had never begun cutting everything would be a lot easier even though I'd probably still have anxiety and depression. I love your videos so much they've really helped me in my recovery.
Great question honey!! I will talk about this today :) xxoo
Anonymous asked: #katifaq Hey kati, I don't know if you've suggested this to people before but I got told about it today and I'm going to give it a go! Get a shoe box, cover it in wrapping paper or something. Gradually start putting stuff on it that makes you happy! Whether it's an iPod with happy music, you're favourite book, a picture of your best friend, family etc. really think about the things that make you happy and when you are down or the urges are strong, take something out of the box:)?
Thank you so much for this!! What a great idea! I will use this in my video today :) xoxo