My counselor said she’s frustrated with me! Help! Facebook Friday! #KatiFAQ
1. Do u ever have ed patients in therapy that have NO idea anymore what they like? Colors, music, styles…I feel lost. You said that trying new things will help. But how can if we like nothing, trying new things will help. i know that i dont like anything even the new stuff.
2. #KATIFAQ! ! My counselor told me she is frustrated. Cause I ask for help but don’t accept the help so she doesn’t know how to help me. I don’t realize im doing that. I feel bad she is frustrated. I’m also frustrated. Does this mean im a untreatable client? ! I’ve been seeing 2 counselors and a social worker for a yr/ yr in a half. Plus saw counselors b4 that. Im gonna be 21, and im not improving. I refuse hospitals cuz im scared and my family wld b really mad. I don’t want to have that happen again. How can I improve? Or is this my life?
3. #KatiFAQ Hey Kati, I’m not sure if this is too late, but in your recent video you mentioned that a person has to be ‘ready’ to heal, but how do we know that we are ready and how can we prepare ourselves to become ready? I’m not sure whether that actually makes sense, so feel free to avoid this question. Also thank you for all that you do , you are truly a phenomenal person!
I watched the film ‘about time’ last week, about a man who can travel back in time over his own timeline. At the end he said ‘I live each day as if I’ve come back to enjoy it as my last and enjoy all the wonderful, little moments of my amazing, ordinary life. After all, we’re all travelling through time together, the least we can do is enjoy the ride.’ I loved this because it reminded me of the joy that can be found in the ordinary moments of the most mundane day. There’s beauty in everyone’s life if you just look for it.
Will going to therapy cause me to completely lose my mind? Website/YouTube Wednesday! #KatiFAQ
1. #katiFAQ Can you recover if you’re job focuses on your body? I am in professional training as a dancer, actress and singer and you mentioned before how you’ve had clients who did these jobs & found it harder to recover. Because what I do entails hours of exercise a day, is it possible for me to recover from my ed? I know that I need to in order to be healthy enough to fulfill my career, but my body is always going to be judged. Thanks! Been wondering and hearing conflicting things about this, which really upsets me because I know I’m passionate about the career I’ve chosen and would be lost without it xxx
2. #KatiFAQ What do you think about holistic medicine (acupuncture) for mental health related things, such as depression, anxiety, and eating disorders? What do you think of it as a compliment to therapy, or an alternative to medication?
I know the World Health Organization recognizes it as an effective form of treatment for many conditions. What do you think I recently tried acupuncture and I think it was extremely helpful.
3. Hi Kati!! Thank you for all you do, you are just amazing! Anyway, I am going into my junior year of college and all summer I have been seeing the same therapist three times a week. I really love her and am making great progress. I am going to school in a little over a week, far away from home and I won’t be able to meet with her in person. We have planned to continue sessions over skype three times a week. I was just wondering if you think it will be equally productive? I am just worried because I feel like meeting someone in person is more beneficial because therapists pick up on little things like body language but I don’t want to switch because I feel so comfortable with her.
4. Hi Kati,
I have been referred to a hospital mental health section to deal with my issues by my psychiatrist. He referred me last year also but I refused to go hoping that I will just be able to cope on my own. The thing is I was in therapy a few years ago in CAMHS but she left when I was just getting better. I’m scared to trust someone again and I am petrified to talk& open up about where ally problems have come from (childhood sexual abuse from 8yrs-14yrs). When I let myself think about what happened its as if he is inside my head& controls me. I’m not in control of my thoughts or actions and am worried I will kill myself if I start to open up about it. But clearly going on the way I am is not healthy and I’m just getting worse. I don’t know what to do. It’s not like I’ve never spoke about it cause I had a court case for 3eeeks about it and had to speak in court and everything. (He got not guilty)
I want to get better, but I genuinely feel if I go down this route of talking about it all again I will completely loose my mind. I need your advice. Sometimes I think I can’t be bothered to fight anymore cause he’s already won xxx
@KatiMorton the greatest prison people live in, is the fear of what other people will think. #journaltopic Thanks Brent!
Is it normal to love my abuser? Facebook Friday! #KatiFAQ
1. #katiFAQ hi kati I’m 18 and I was raped for 7 years by my neighbor he is 50 years old , I’ve been seeing him every day for 7 years and I feel that I love him although I started feeling this new so is it normal or do I need help to get through this ?! Please help .
2. #KatiFAQ hey Kati. i have depression and anxiety but they are both self diagnosed. i have asked my parents to take me somewhere, where i can talk to someone and get help. but the are ashamed and don’t want to believe that i have problems. its really hard because i have to hide everything from them. what are some ways i can get help without them knowing? btw i LOVE your videos
3. #KatiFAQ: hi Kati, my question is: is it possible to have bpd tendencies but not the actual disorder? I went back to seeing my old therapist after being discharged from treatment and one of the first things she asked me was if I was diagnosed with bpd. They didn’t tell me I was but it seems my therapist thinks I am I guess?! So is it possible to have just the symptoms? Thanks!!
Hi Kati, Thank you for everything you do. I have a suggestion for a journal topic. “Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, of work around it.” -Michael Jordan I love this quote because no matter what come in your way you should never give up. Even if you hit a wall and you’re stuck there for awhile never give up because you will always find a way to get over it. Thank you again for everything you do and have an amazing weekend. -Alexandra
How do I overcome my apathy for recovery? Twitter Thursday! #KatiFAQ
1. What Is Outpatient Group Therapy Like For Eating Disorders I Never Been Their But I’m Going Soon And I’m Really Scared. Will I have to eat there?
2. #KatiFAQ is there such thing as only having an ed at a certain time of day like at night? @KatiMorton
3. I will be doing really well, and then for no reason I will just stop caring about recovery, my goals and myself. Nothing that used to drive me before matters. How can I fight through this apathy? Thanks.
Journal Topic: Thanks Millie!
“We cannot judge a song by it’s duration, nor by the number of notes, we must judge it by the way it touches and lifts our soul” –anon
This quote always helps me to focus on the things that really matter in life. Your appearance and all those little things you think you need to be perfect, don’t matter, what really matters is the way you lift other people and the ways you can bring happiness into the world.
How can I let myself cry?!? Website/YouTube Wednesday! #KatiFAQ
1. #katifaq What is your opinion on documentaries, movies, and TV shows on eating disorders and self harm? Do you think it might glamorize it and give people ideas or do you think it spreads awareness? Also do non disordered people watch things like that? Thanks!
2. #KatiFAQ How do I know which level of ED treatment I should aim for? I’m currently seeing a counselor, and I’ll be able to see a GP soon. How do I know if this is enough, or if I should seek further treatment? Thanks!
3. #KatiFAQ What are your thoughts on the Rubber Band Theory for people who self harm? I was just given an elastic from my therapist to use to try and replace cutting, but I have also heard it doesn’t “count” because you are still harming yourself. Any thoughts? Thank you!
4. Kati I have been in years of counseling and even been in a psych ward and a residential home for girls for 6 months and I can tell my story over and over again about the abuse, and all that fun stuff….but I just cant seem to let myself cry during the sessions…I think parts of it is fear of letting go….I hate to lose control, which is why I still struggle with Self harm (11 years) and an eating disorder(9 years)…Could it possibly be that I fear of getting betrayed by my counselor again? I have been to about 6 different counselors and the first two betrayed my trust with them. Is that causing a stumbling block with my current one? Could trust play a factor? I want to cry I really do. I just cant get myself to do it..its like everything numbs up in session….
Journal Topic: Thanks Rachel!! xox
Hi Kati! So this isn’t really a quote but I think it is definitely something to think about/thought provoking. Today in therapy, I was complaining about my ED and things just being really difficult in recovery. I said how I hope that what I have been through is the hardest thing that I will ever face in my life. To which my therapist responded, “Believe it is until life proves you wrong.” I just thought this was amazing and could maybe help others in their outlooks in any given situation
How can I tell my healthy voice and Eating Disorder voice apart? Facebook Friday! #KatiFAQ
1. #katiFAQ hi kati! I was sexually abused in my past and I currently have an eating disorder. Is it possible for the two to be linked without me consciously realizing it? I know people use it as a coping tool to deal with flashbacks etc, but I never thought of my eating disorder being related. Just curious! Thanks
2. #katifaq In recovery, how can you tell your healthy voice and your ED voice apart? Sometimes I find myself refusing ‘bad’ foods, and I’m not sure if it’s because I actually don’t want them, or my ED voice telling me I can’t have them. Likewise, a binge will often start with what I think is my healthy voice, reasoning that I want the food and shouldn’t deny myself. How can I tell if the thought comes from a healthy or an unhealthy place? Thank you for everything you do, you’ve really helped me so much xxx
3. #KatiFAQ Hi Kati! I hope you are having a great day! I have a question for you. As you know, I used to struggle with self-harm and other mental health issues, and am now recovered and in medical school. Last night my roommate (who is also a med student) came home and started telling me about a teenage patient she had seen in her pediatric clinic who had “nasty scars and cuts all over her arms from cutting herself” and how it made her really uncomfortable to look at, discuss, and document in her chart. I really wanted to open up about my own experience, but for some reason I couldn’t. Instead I discussed the issue in terms of patients I have seen and how I would handle it, in an attempt to get her to be less judgmental. Do you think that in order to help end the stigma it is necessary to be open about personal experience or is it enough to be aware and try to help others be more sensitive without disclosing? Obviously it is inappropriate to share personal experience with patients, but I am wondering about friends and colleagues. Negative stigma and lack of understanding clearly exists, so is not sharing simply personal and professional self-preservation, or are we actually doing harm and perpetuating the stigma by acting ashamed or afraid of being judged? I am wondering what your thoughts are. Thanks
Journal Topic: (thanks Kaylinn!)
#journaltopic #katifaq Its a little long but I love analogies.. Think back to when you were small and learning to ride a bike.. You fell. Right? But you didn’t give up. It felt good when you got back up and started riding it. Now think about how good it will feel to get back on your feet and start fighting the daily battles you have. Your gonna fall but don’t give up it felt good to ride a bike its gonna feel amazing when you win this fight your in.
I thought this was great because when we were small the only worries we had was the small things like learning to ride a bike. So what makes me feel good? What makes me feel like I can keep battling against SH ED.. What ever it is!
1. Hi Kati, thanks for all you do for everyone. I’m sure you have 100s of asks so not sure if you’ll see this one. I was diagnosed 2years ago with BPD& dysthymic disorders & have been in therapy for over 5 years (I’m now 20) Are there patients with BPD that struggle with it forever? I feel like I’ve done everything, DBT, 5 inpatients, meds, therapy, but still feel like I’m always going to have this distorted thought process. I do have an AMAZING therapist of 4 years but I’m afraid I’ll get ‘dumped’
2. #katifaq hey kati, love your videos! Anyway I’m just really curious about something. I know that what your clients tell you is confidential, but can you, as a therapist, tell your own personal therapist something that one of your clients tells you? Not sure if that makes sense. But if a client tells you something that upset you, could you talk to your therapist about it? Or would that be breaking confidentiality?
3. #katiFAQ Hi Kati, my question is … If you have been diagnosed with bipolar what would the best kind of therapy would be? My therapist specialises in DBT but from my understanding that is most useful for treating BPD, is that correct? What sort of therapy/therapist should I be searching for? Thanks heaps!! Love your channel! xo
4. Oh goodness I forgot to hashtag my question ! #katifaq I’ll ask again , so the clinical psychologist I have to see weekly said I shouldn’t try an control my anxiety , I shouldn’t control my breathing , I shouldn’t clench my fist and I shouldn’t try an distract my self from the anxious thoughts , I just don’t understand ? What’s ur opinion ?
5. #katiFAQ why do ed’s often change? Eg. Anorexic to bulimic? Love your channel it’s fantastic
6. Hi Kati. I’ve been dealing with an ED for about 14 years and SH for about 8, but I don’t feel like I want to “recover”. Any tips?
1. #KatiFAQ hi kati I’m 18 years old . I was raped for 7 years by my neighbor since age 11 , last session I told my therapist all about it but every time I think about it I regret tilling her then I start cutting ! How can I stop feeling regret and start feeling like she is going to help.
2. #KatiFAQ Hi kati, I am experiencing what I believe to be OCD (will be seeing someone to confirm, however from asking other OCD sufferers and doing research I am very certain it is) and I am worried I may be developing self harm tendencies. This only really started a few days ago but I have started punching walls deliberately with the intent of causing harm to myself. I think this counts as Self harm even though I am not cutting but I am not doing it majorly but I am worried it may be starting a pattern of Self harm, how do I get out of it before it may possibly begin?
3. #katifaq hey Kati, I was wondering why we self sabotage and how to stop! Every time I’m doing well in my ED and SH recovery it’s like a flip switches and I spend days or even weeks undoing all my hard work and starting over is more and more devastating each time. I think it’s partly because I’m scared life won’t be better or I still won’t be happy once I’m recovered so it’s safer to stay sick… But this isn’t what I want! How do I get over it? Please please help! Thanks for everything you do!
Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind. —David G. Allen