How can I tell my healthy voice and Eating Disorder voice apart? Facebook Friday! #KatiFAQ
1. #katiFAQ hi kati! I was sexually abused in my past and I currently have an eating disorder. Is it possible for the two to be linked without me consciously realizing it? I know people use it as a coping tool to deal with flashbacks etc, but I never thought of my eating disorder being related. Just curious! Thanks
2. #katifaq In recovery, how can you tell your healthy voice and your ED voice apart? Sometimes I find myself refusing ‘bad’ foods, and I’m not sure if it’s because I actually don’t want them, or my ED voice telling me I can’t have them. Likewise, a binge will often start with what I think is my healthy voice, reasoning that I want the food and shouldn’t deny myself. How can I tell if the thought comes from a healthy or an unhealthy place? Thank you for everything you do, you’ve really helped me so much xxx
3. #KatiFAQ Hi Kati! I hope you are having a great day! I have a question for you. As you know, I used to struggle with self-harm and other mental health issues, and am now recovered and in medical school. Last night my roommate (who is also a med student) came home and started telling me about a teenage patient she had seen in her pediatric clinic who had “nasty scars and cuts all over her arms from cutting herself” and how it made her really uncomfortable to look at, discuss, and document in her chart. I really wanted to open up about my own experience, but for some reason I couldn’t. Instead I discussed the issue in terms of patients I have seen and how I would handle it, in an attempt to get her to be less judgmental. Do you think that in order to help end the stigma it is necessary to be open about personal experience or is it enough to be aware and try to help others be more sensitive without disclosing? Obviously it is inappropriate to share personal experience with patients, but I am wondering about friends and colleagues. Negative stigma and lack of understanding clearly exists, so is not sharing simply personal and professional self-preservation, or are we actually doing harm and perpetuating the stigma by acting ashamed or afraid of being judged? I am wondering what your thoughts are. Thanks
Journal Topic: (thanks Kaylinn!)
#journaltopic #katifaq Its a little long but I love analogies.. Think back to when you were small and learning to ride a bike.. You fell. Right? But you didn’t give up. It felt good when you got back up and started riding it. Now think about how good it will feel to get back on your feet and start fighting the daily battles you have. Your gonna fall but don’t give up it felt good to ride a bike its gonna feel amazing when you win this fight your in.
I thought this was great because when we were small the only worries we had was the small things like learning to ride a bike. So what makes me feel good? What makes me feel like I can keep battling against SH ED.. What ever it is!
1. Hi Kati, thanks for all you do for everyone. I’m sure you have 100s of asks so not sure if you’ll see this one. I was diagnosed 2years ago with BPD& dysthymic disorders & have been in therapy for over 5 years (I’m now 20) Are there patients with BPD that struggle with it forever? I feel like I’ve done everything, DBT, 5 inpatients, meds, therapy, but still feel like I’m always going to have this distorted thought process. I do have an AMAZING therapist of 4 years but I’m afraid I’ll get ‘dumped’
2. #katifaq hey kati, love your videos! Anyway I’m just really curious about something. I know that what your clients tell you is confidential, but can you, as a therapist, tell your own personal therapist something that one of your clients tells you? Not sure if that makes sense. But if a client tells you something that upset you, could you talk to your therapist about it? Or would that be breaking confidentiality?
3. #katiFAQ Hi Kati, my question is … If you have been diagnosed with bipolar what would the best kind of therapy would be? My therapist specialises in DBT but from my understanding that is most useful for treating BPD, is that correct? What sort of therapy/therapist should I be searching for? Thanks heaps!! Love your channel! xo
4. Oh goodness I forgot to hashtag my question ! #katifaq I’ll ask again , so the clinical psychologist I have to see weekly said I shouldn’t try an control my anxiety , I shouldn’t control my breathing , I shouldn’t clench my fist and I shouldn’t try an distract my self from the anxious thoughts , I just don’t understand ? What’s ur opinion ?
5. #katiFAQ why do ed’s often change? Eg. Anorexic to bulimic? Love your channel it’s fantastic
6. Hi Kati. I’ve been dealing with an ED for about 14 years and SH for about 8, but I don’t feel like I want to “recover”. Any tips?
1. #KatiFAQ hi kati I’m 18 years old . I was raped for 7 years by my neighbor since age 11 , last session I told my therapist all about it but every time I think about it I regret tilling her then I start cutting ! How can I stop feeling regret and start feeling like she is going to help.
2. #KatiFAQ Hi kati, I am experiencing what I believe to be OCD (will be seeing someone to confirm, however from asking other OCD sufferers and doing research I am very certain it is) and I am worried I may be developing self harm tendencies. This only really started a few days ago but I have started punching walls deliberately with the intent of causing harm to myself. I think this counts as Self harm even though I am not cutting but I am not doing it majorly but I am worried it may be starting a pattern of Self harm, how do I get out of it before it may possibly begin?
3. #katifaq hey Kati, I was wondering why we self sabotage and how to stop! Every time I’m doing well in my ED and SH recovery it’s like a flip switches and I spend days or even weeks undoing all my hard work and starting over is more and more devastating each time. I think it’s partly because I’m scared life won’t be better or I still won’t be happy once I’m recovered so it’s safer to stay sick… But this isn’t what I want! How do I get over it? Please please help! Thanks for everything you do!
Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind. —David G. Allen