1. Hey kati! It’s my first question for #katiFAQ! Why is it bad to use exercise to “purge” ?
2. #katifaq What do you do when your friends are also struggling and they are your main support system? You don’t want to trigger them or further overwhelm them by talking about what you are going through but you don’t want to push them away either by being secretive and closed off. It’s a hard time having a regular discussion sometimes when you are all feeling low. How do you deal with that?
3. #Katifaq, HELP! Kati what do I do when I’ve told my family about my ED and asked to consider professional help, and my family feels hurt and offended that all there help, still isn’t enough? I dont want them to feel like that, but I know I need HELP!
How to journal? What if I don’t like it? What if I can’t get started?
1. #katifaq what is the best way to talk to your children about your self injury scars? Or your self injury in general?
2. Anyways, my question is, would this be considered “sexual abuse”? My moms ex boyfriend, used to put me on his shoulders, or just pick me up playfully, but the thing is, he would always put his hand on my vagina, and usually his finger/thumb would be in my vagina, or almost in. This is very very awkward to write, as I’ve never told anyone, and I’m very embarrassed that I never told him to stop. The reason I’m asking this question, is because I’d like to tell someone and start going to therapy, I just don’t know if it would be taken seriously, or if this is even “sexual abuse”… Thank you so much. I really hope you answer, I’d really like to get your input. I love your videos Kati, thanks for doing what you do!!
3. #katiFAQ I very rarely get sexually aroused. I think this is because of my ED and depression. Also I was sexually abused at various points from 9 to 15. I get physical pain if I get aroused. Other than an STD check I’ve never had anything checked out. My GP said that given I have no continence issues it is unlikely that anything is physcially wrong. I haven’t said about the pain. I don’t know if it is a physical thing or a PTSD thing. It is worse during flashbacks. I don’t know what to do.
Journal Topic: (Thanks Emalyn)
“The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. The good things don’t always soften the bad things but vice versa, the bad things don’t necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant.”
How much anxiety is too much? Website/YouTube Wednesday! #KatFAQ
1. I wondered if any of you have experience recovering from an ED without the support of a treatment team. Treatment isn’t an option for me at the moment, and I’ve been finding my meals really difficult lately. I don’t know whether it’s better to be planning my meals ahead of time to reach all the recommended daily amounts, or letting my body give me the cues and eating when I’m hungry, stopping when I’m full. The problem is that I find it very difficult to make a healthy plan – it often triggers me to restrict, but with intuitive eating I think I drift towards restriction unconsciously.
Any tips would be really great, do you go for intuitive eating or meal planning in recovery? I’m a little stuck at the moment!!
2. #katifaq (hope I’m not to late). Can older people have eating disorders? My grandmother just turned 70 and she doesn’t eat. She isn’t super skinny but she seems to be losing weight quite rapidly and complains saying she is fat all the time. I’m worried about her! Help! What can I do to help her???
3. #KatiFAQ Hi Kati, when do you know how much anxiety is too much? For example, last year I used to throw up from stress almost every morning, and from what I remember that lasted several months (I’ve overcome that now, although I still throw up from time to time). Is that considered excessive? Thank you, I love your videos. :)
Find two songs that describe you(or your mental illness). Or two poems. Or plants, animals, shoes, really anything that you can find meaning in. The first one that you pick is who you consider yourself to be now. The second one you pick is the one you want to become some day. Then somehow express how you’re going to get there(whether it’s through journaling, painting, signing.. etc.).
That might be confusing, so here’s my example. I chose a snake and an elephant to describe me and my mental illness. Snake because I find them sneaky, sometimes mean and poisonous. They also get a really bad rap. A lot of people are scared of them. Then the elephant, what I’m working towards. There are many reasons I chose an elephant, but one of them is because they leave big footprints wherever they go. I’ve always felt invisible, but no one can ignore the elephant in the room. They have a great memory and I want to be memorable. Since I’m quiet and shy, people don’t usually remember me. I’m working towards getting over my anxiety so I can be more outgoing and leave an impact on the people I interact with.
Is it normal for a therapist to cry in session? #katiFAQ
1. The journal topic was good…but what about if my eating disorder didn’t start as a coping skill? I started to diet because I had been overweight and have felt ugly my entire life. What do you do when your clothes being too tight and the thought of gaining the weight back really are the most triggering thing? I don’t have some family drama or past abuse to cope with…I just know that no matter how ugly I feel now, gaining back the weight would make me even uglier. I’m eating again, but I’m not sure if I’m ok with it. #katifaq
2. #katiFAQ Hi! We have been discussing this some in my psychology class so I wanted your input. I know several people responded with similar questions: QUESTION: Hi Kati, Is it common for therapist to cry during session? Is it perceived as unprofessional or is it a normal and okay reaction to client’s stories? I am really curious about this because I have a friend who’s therapist would cry often during session with her and she liked it because she felt like the therapist understood her and it helped the relationship, however I also can see how it can be an uncomfortable thing for some clients. I would love to hear your thoughts. Is a therapist crying during a session okay or not? Thank you.
3. #KatiFAQ I have a relationship question. People often say that with the right person a relationship is “easy”—-but if you have a history of childhood abuse and SH/ED behaviors then will a romantic relationship ever be “easy”? How do you know if you should give up on a relationship or keep working at it? Do you ever recommend couples’ counseling? 4. Hey Kati, So my therapist suggested that I write a letter to my abuser, and expressing details and all my anger out onto paper. Since I have started doing that, I feel like I am reliving everything again…The memories, the pain, etc. I know its for a good purpose, but I been really battling my thoughts and its has got real hard. I don’t know what to do about it. I feel completely confused! Please Help!
Thanks Kat22!! Hey Kati “To get up when you are down, to fight more intensely when you are struggling; to put in the extra effort when you are in sheer pain, to comeback when nobody expects you to, and to stand tall when everyone is pulling you down are what make a champion.” By Apoorve Dubey
My counselor said she’s frustrated with me! Help! Facebook Friday! #KatiFAQ
1. Do u ever have ed patients in therapy that have NO idea anymore what they like? Colors, music, styles…I feel lost. You said that trying new things will help. But how can if we like nothing, trying new things will help. i know that i dont like anything even the new stuff.
2. #KATIFAQ! ! My counselor told me she is frustrated. Cause I ask for help but don’t accept the help so she doesn’t know how to help me. I don’t realize im doing that. I feel bad she is frustrated. I’m also frustrated. Does this mean im a untreatable client? ! I’ve been seeing 2 counselors and a social worker for a yr/ yr in a half. Plus saw counselors b4 that. Im gonna be 21, and im not improving. I refuse hospitals cuz im scared and my family wld b really mad. I don’t want to have that happen again. How can I improve? Or is this my life?
3. #KatiFAQ Hey Kati, I’m not sure if this is too late, but in your recent video you mentioned that a person has to be ‘ready’ to heal, but how do we know that we are ready and how can we prepare ourselves to become ready? I’m not sure whether that actually makes sense, so feel free to avoid this question. Also thank you for all that you do , you are truly a phenomenal person!
I watched the film ‘about time’ last week, about a man who can travel back in time over his own timeline. At the end he said ‘I live each day as if I’ve come back to enjoy it as my last and enjoy all the wonderful, little moments of my amazing, ordinary life. After all, we’re all travelling through time together, the least we can do is enjoy the ride.’ I loved this because it reminded me of the joy that can be found in the ordinary moments of the most mundane day. There’s beauty in everyone’s life if you just look for it.
How can I stop feeling worthless? Facebook Friday! #KatiFAQ
1. #KatiFAQ Hi Kati. I was wondering what emotional abuse is. I understand the concept but how do you know if you have been emotionally abused? Also what is the difference between emotional and mental abuse? I hope you answer this, thank you so much. Mallory
2. #Katifaq - Accepting sympathy? Hey Kati! I absolutely hate it when my therapist shows any sort of sympathy towards me, is this normal? I’m still working through some past trauma & it makes me super uncomfortable to hear her say things like ‘I’m so sorry that happened’ or ‘that had to be very scary’ or anything along those lines… Showing sympathy doesn’t change anything and it’s not like she could really ever understand how I felt/feel about it. In addition, it makes me even more uncomfortable to hear her say that I was ‘abused’. I know that I was, but I feels like I’m being labeled as defective or something. Can I ask her to not say those kinds of things? Or is it something I need to hear/learn to accept? Thanks!!
3. #KatiFAQ How can you overcome feeling worthless? Throughout my childhood I was sexually abused by my dad and my mum did nothing about it. I want to recover but I don’t know how to motivate myself when I feel so worthless.
What do you consider your greatest accomplishment to date.. and why? Share with me!! xox
What’s considered sexual abuse? Twitter Thursday! #KatiFAQ
1. #katifaq how can you tell whether your friends are ‘toxic friends’ or not?
2. #KatiFAQ How do I start with a new therapist? Do I have to tell them everything I have already talked about? I signed a release form that my therapist has. What do therapists tell other therapists when transferring a client? Thanks so much!
3. #KatiFAQ Hi Kati! What’s considered to be sexual abuse? When I was about 7 years old this person forced me to do some things.I say force because I hated it and I didn’t know what to do to stop it. He was only 4 years older than me.
We were children so there wasn’t sex involved but now when I’m in recovery I think that it did affect me more than I thought. Thank you! xo
4. #katifaq not sure if this will be in time but here goes. So I’m over a year clean from self-harm but lately the urges have been getting Worse, especially since a bad break up. Instead of acting on these urges, I’ve started to drink and smoke a lot more, Is it normal to replace one self destructive behaviour with another?
Hi Kati! So this isn’t a quote but really a mental exercise that has really helped me feel grounded. It is from an article called “How to Beat Panic Attacks: 3 Simple Mindfulness Techniques”
“If, like me, you find that closing your eyes makes you panic more, open your eyes and start acknowledging your surroundings. Say hello to your hands, your feet, the ground, the ceiling, a chair, a tree, or anything at all you spot around you. If you feel like this is ridiculous, it is! Allow yourself to chuckle and have a sense of humor about it.
It may sound ridiculous but it really helps me remember where I am and be more conscious!
Thank you to Megan for making her video today!! It is in my playlist “kind words from others”
Will going to therapy cause me to completely lose my mind? Website/YouTube Wednesday! #KatiFAQ
1. #katiFAQ Can you recover if you’re job focuses on your body? I am in professional training as a dancer, actress and singer and you mentioned before how you’ve had clients who did these jobs & found it harder to recover. Because what I do entails hours of exercise a day, is it possible for me to recover from my ed? I know that I need to in order to be healthy enough to fulfill my career, but my body is always going to be judged. Thanks! Been wondering and hearing conflicting things about this, which really upsets me because I know I’m passionate about the career I’ve chosen and would be lost without it xxx
2. #KatiFAQ What do you think about holistic medicine (acupuncture) for mental health related things, such as depression, anxiety, and eating disorders? What do you think of it as a compliment to therapy, or an alternative to medication?
I know the World Health Organization recognizes it as an effective form of treatment for many conditions. What do you think I recently tried acupuncture and I think it was extremely helpful.
3. Hi Kati!! Thank you for all you do, you are just amazing! Anyway, I am going into my junior year of college and all summer I have been seeing the same therapist three times a week. I really love her and am making great progress. I am going to school in a little over a week, far away from home and I won’t be able to meet with her in person. We have planned to continue sessions over skype three times a week. I was just wondering if you think it will be equally productive? I am just worried because I feel like meeting someone in person is more beneficial because therapists pick up on little things like body language but I don’t want to switch because I feel so comfortable with her.
4. Hi Kati,
I have been referred to a hospital mental health section to deal with my issues by my psychiatrist. He referred me last year also but I refused to go hoping that I will just be able to cope on my own. The thing is I was in therapy a few years ago in CAMHS but she left when I was just getting better. I’m scared to trust someone again and I am petrified to talk& open up about where ally problems have come from (childhood sexual abuse from 8yrs-14yrs). When I let myself think about what happened its as if he is inside my head& controls me. I’m not in control of my thoughts or actions and am worried I will kill myself if I start to open up about it. But clearly going on the way I am is not healthy and I’m just getting worse. I don’t know what to do. It’s not like I’ve never spoke about it cause I had a court case for 3eeeks about it and had to speak in court and everything. (He got not guilty)
I want to get better, but I genuinely feel if I go down this route of talking about it all again I will completely loose my mind. I need your advice. Sometimes I think I can’t be bothered to fight anymore cause he’s already won xxx
@KatiMorton the greatest prison people live in, is the fear of what other people will think. #journaltopic Thanks Brent!
I would really like your opinion on this matter. Please share your story or feedback. I recognize that this is not the case with everyone however I think it is something that should be discussed more. Let’s start the conversation here…
How do I overcome my apathy for recovery? Twitter Thursday! #KatiFAQ
1. What Is Outpatient Group Therapy Like For Eating Disorders I Never Been Their But I’m Going Soon And I’m Really Scared. Will I have to eat there?
2. #KatiFAQ is there such thing as only having an ed at a certain time of day like at night? @KatiMorton
3. I will be doing really well, and then for no reason I will just stop caring about recovery, my goals and myself. Nothing that used to drive me before matters. How can I fight through this apathy? Thanks.
Journal Topic: Thanks Millie!
“We cannot judge a song by it’s duration, nor by the number of notes, we must judge it by the way it touches and lifts our soul” –anon
This quote always helps me to focus on the things that really matter in life. Your appearance and all those little things you think you need to be perfect, don’t matter, what really matters is the way you lift other people and the ways you can bring happiness into the world.